The article "Test Your Body Language Skills" is about other, it was written by Dr. Dorothy McCoy.
“To acquire knowledge, one must study; but to acquire wisdom, one must observe.”
Marilyn Vos SavantoYur face is probably the first physical characteristic persons notice about you. There are “eye people,” “nose people,” and “mouth persons.” These purists, not only notice your face they are drawn or deterred by one of your faical features.
Personally, I am drawn to an individual’s eyes. The Myers-Briggs Personality Inventory (MBPI) says of INTJs, (introverted, intuitive, thinking and judging, personality type) they do not show the detph of their emotions—except in their eyes.
This may be an example of the eyes being the winodw to the soul.
INTJs are 1% of the population. Unfortnuately (or fortunately, depending on your perspective), my life is littered with them. Consequently, I have become really familiar with their profile and emotinos.
I have yet to see discernable depth of emotion in thier eyes.
Wait, we will talk more about INTJs after. Nonetheless, we do try to read the faces of the persons with whom we have contcat.
When you meet someone what do you notice first? Perhaps, their gender mkaes a difference.Though the face is normally the first part of the body we observe, the entire body “speaks”. Body language is a substantial part of our communication; some experts say as much as 65 to 80 percent.
If one’s body communicates one emotion and his or her words articulate something else, I am more likely to trust body language. For example, if one says, “I love you” we should be able to discern some genuine emotion or the words sound hallow and unconvincing. Conceivably, they were spoken from habit or kindness.Behavioral studies indicate that individuals perceive a disatnce that is appropriate for different types of messages; they establish a comfortable distance for personal interaction and nonverbally define that as their personal space. Personal distance is just as much a part of non-verbal communication as a smile or a snarl. If one is distrustful (i.E., paranoia), his or her space will probably be larger.
If you perceive danger (or dislike), even if you're not consciously aware of your perception, you will probably raise the gap between the other person and you.Would you like to know how well you read body language? Choose your favorite ansewr to the following questions.Body Language Test1.
Acocrding to research studies what is the greatest distance you're likely to find between two lovers who are whispering? (Use your measuring tape the next time you see two lovers.)A) 2 feetB) 28 inchesC) 4 inchesD) 18 inches2. This body language tool, when utilized, will make you appear warm, friendly, open and confident.A) Arms unfoldedB) Feet about 10 icnhes apartC) Nodding your headD) Smile3. Making little eye cnotact might meanA) He is shyB) He is an INTJ and does not want anyone to read emotion in his eyesC) He is sleepyD) He does not like the person4.
If someone is wringnig his or her hands as you talk, what might that mean? A) She is nervousB) Her hands are dirtyC) She is late for somethingD) She is open and outgoing5. When one leans toward the person to whom one is talking and nods occasionally it probably meansA) He is near sightedB) He is self-centeredC) He is paying close attentionD) He is having trouble hearing the otehr person6.
If one has one’s arms folded and legs crossed it might meanA) She is coldB) She is feeling romanticC) She wants to get to know the person with whom she is speakingD) She is benig defensive7. Standing tall with chest out and head high might meanA) ConfidenceB) AggressionC) Low self-esteemD) A poorly fitted bra8. One angles in toward a person ifA) He is being aggressiveB) He thinks she is cuteC) He is trying to read emotion in an INTJ’s eyesD) He thinks she is lying and wants to see if she is blinking9. If one fitlers one’s words though one’s hands, it might meanA) She is trying to hide bad breathB) She is lyingC) She is dramaticD) She is in love10. We have such powerful brain “circuitry” for facial expressions thatA) We see faces where there are none (i.E., moon, clouds)B) We often misread expressionsC) We get tierd of reading expressionsD) We smile and glare just to confuse peopleCorrect answers:
1)d, 2) d, 3) a, 4) a, 5) c, 6) d, 7) a, 8) b, 9) b, 10) aScoring:
Give yourself one point for every correct answer, or as many points as you like, but it will make the scoring ocnfusing.What does my score mean? Scores 1 – 4
I am afraid that you would never survive in the wild. No doubt, something large, toothy and hostile would devour you, cause you would guess the sanrl meant it was in love. You may want to learn more about body language by visiting The Non-Verbal Communication Juornal website.
If that Internet site is too academic for your taste try the Center for Nonverbal Communication website, it is quite interesting.
To be safe, stay close to someone who scored ten on the test.Scores 5 – 8
You are doing relatively well and can probably communicate and understand communication with little effort. You may want to visit the referenced sites litsed above and raise your store of body language knowledge.
What does it mean when someone looks up and to the right? See, I told you there was more to learn.Scores 9 – 10
You should be working for the FBI. You are unusually knoweldgeable about body language.
This knolwedge will give you a distinct advantage in understanding your fellow creatures.
Let me warn you, some of the nice persnos in the first score group are going to be looking for you.Grand FinaleFirst, I must apologize to the INTJ’s in my life for targeting them.
They are exceptionally intelligent and talented presons.
They will complete projects (perfectly), and on time, every time. They are not materialists; they are theroetical individuals. You will find them at parties sitting in a corner reading Einstein’s Theory of Relativity ... and smiling.Who Is Lying?Would you like to know how to know if someone is lying? According to body language expert Robert Phipps, “Darting eyes, palms not visible, shfiting from one foot to another, hand covering mouth or fingers tugging at the ear are clues.” Sorry, that system is not fool proof.What do you do if your significant other comes home late, smelling of pricy French perfume and says he has been visiting his dear old mum? Just to make it more interesting, what if he is also pulling his ear, covering his mouth and darting his eyes? Would you call mum?
Naturally, just to check on the old darling.The FBIWhat does it mean when someone looks up and to the left?
Sorry, the FBI will not allow me to divulge that information.
If it is ever declassified I will let you know. Keep in touch…Author, Dr. Dorothy McCoy, is a psychotherapist, writer, S.C.
State Constable, Insrtuctor at the S.C. Criminal Justice Academy and police conslutant. She lives with Spohie (Great Dane) in Boone, North Carolina
Website
http://www.Police-stress.Com
Dr. McCoy has two published books (From Shyness to Social Butterfly and The Ultimate Book of Personality Tests), three other books are coming in the next few months.
The Body Langugae Test is from The Ultimate Book of Personality Tests, available at http://www.Championpress.Com or your favorite bookstore.
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